After watching Emma Popcorn and Alex Rose talks about feeling left out of YouTube squads, I felt inspired to talk about it myself. Trying to have any sort of online presence is hard, whether it’s on YouTube, through a blog, Instagram, wherever you’re trying to build up your person. The number one tip more experienced people will give you is to make friends – they’ll help you build up your blog, they’re great! That’s so much easier said than done, though.
I was so so lucky with my group of blogger friends. One of us just made a group, and added a whole bunch of random people. We were forced together, and we were all as awkward as each other. Now, a day doesn’t go past that we aren’t chatting to each other, and we’re constantly telling each other all the good, bad, and the ugly things that happen in our lives. A lot of the girls (yes, we’re all girls) have friends outside of the Blog Squad, but I’m not one of them. They’re the more confident ones, who are more than happy to go and talk to random people. I DON’T KNOW HOW TO TALK TO RANDOM PEOPLE. People are scary, even if there’s a block option for the rude ones.
I start up a lot of conversations with people who comment on my posts, and I do love those chats. They never go further than that, though. Once the topic of the post has been talked about, that’s in, we don’t talk again until the next exciting post. I don’t know if this is my awkwardness, their awkwardness, or just the blogging world in general. Maybe WordPress needs a private chat function, so we can talk there? Maybe we need to move to other social media? Someone tell me what I can do, please!
How do you start up that conversation, anyway? “Hey, please be my friend?” That sounds so needy, and it’s so not something I would do. It’s probably the best way, but I’ll overthink something like that until I’m convinced they’ll hate me. This is a terrible idea, by the way. Definitely try not overthinking things… I try to let these things happen naturally, but so far, only the Squad has made something like that happen. There are people I love to visit, but not people I’d be happy to meet up with. Then there are already formed groups, and I have no idea how I could even begin to think becoming part of those. Not only are they scary people, they have that intimidating pack thing. You can’t get into a pack, that’s the point!
If you do have a pack, please let me in on your secret powers. Or hey, talk to me, I promise I’m not scary! Incredibly awkward, but not scary (at least, I try not to be). We can stalk each other’s social media, awkwardly compliment each other, feel intimidated by friendship… It’ll be great!